THE ULTIMATE TRANSITION          Death takes our loved ones away from us. One way or another we must try to believe that the departed are all right, wherever they are. We who are left behind are the ones who mourn, express our grief, and need to continue with our own lives.          Acknowledging these losses can be a profound and deeply meaningful time if we allow ourselves to feel the experience. The healing process can begin through intentional and heartfelt recognition of this passage. Read about a couple who struggled with the loss of a child through miscarriage and how they chose to express their grief.

Stories about loss of animals, loss of infants through miscarriage, funerals, and memorials. We honor the ultimate passages of transition from this world to another consciousness.

PEACE AT THE BEACH

         Kat had waited a long time to get pregnant. First her husband, Alexi, needed five years to be ready for children, and then it took another year and a half to get pregnant. Kat was prepared for this baby to be part of their lives, and was devastated when she miscarried three months into her pregnancy.
         Kat carried on the best she could after experiencing such a loss. As the first anniversary of the miscarriage approached, Kat was pregnant again, but was having dreams of the baby she'd lost. The time had clearly come to process the grief that was still held within her. She felt she was finally ready to memorialize her child in some way.
         The couple went to the beach on the evening of the anniversary, planning to send a wreath of beach material out to sea to honor their child. The baby had lived in fluid and died in fluid, so Kat and Alexi chose the symbol of the ocean. They read aloud a poem that had poured out of Kat a few days before. An amazing sunset was charged with huge storm clouds. Two seagulls flew through a double rainbow. Since they didn't have the strength to weave the wreath, they found a piece of seaweed and let it float away in the gentle waves. The change of plans appealed to their sense of humor and helped to lift the sadness in their hearts.
         Kat found herself crying like she had never cried before. The tears and grief seemed to come from a place so deep she didn't know it existed. With the release of tears came a sense of peace as the grief was allowed to penetrate the world and leave her body.

         This time of honoring their unborn child helped Kat and Alexi accept the loss and process their still existing grief and left them more room in their hearts to welcome their new baby.

This story offers a wonderful flow of intention and letting go. The intention had a soft shell of structure and allowed the process to unfold. The couple was then able to let the forces of nature come to their aid and assist in the process of healing. Kat let go of the heavy sadness that had stayed with her. She began to notice the gifts of the appreciation of life and amazing changes in her pregnant body that the unborn child had given to her. A sense of completeness allowed the circle to close.

         To Our Little One

Precious, beautiful, wondrous
Brought to us by our shared love

I was only meant to know your spirit
Your body leaving me before it was formed
You were released back to the sea
To join other baby spirits that too were never
Meant to be physically in this world

Even though you left my body on that night
Your gifts will always be with me

You gifted me with your presence
Opening me to new feelings physically and emotionally
That I could have never imagined

I opened to my dreams and fears
I loved you dearly

I dreamed about our life together - the three of us

I felt the changes in my body
My breasts swelling to get ready to feed you
My belly swelling too
Oh how I loved to rub it!

My emotions pouring out so freely
So aware, so open, so present
So able to cry and laugh without judgment

Now on the anniversary of your passing I miss you
I am swelling with another baby inside of me
How different it is
But beautiful and wondrous just the same

I take these gifts you gave me and always remember you
I send out this wreath into the sea as a symbol of our love and connection

— Kat Fritz

Poetry and art can often express what needs to come out. We have to let go of judging these creations, as their ultimate purpose is just to state what can't be said in any other way.

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